Code of Conduct
Don't be creepy.
Communities only work if everyone in them feels safe enough to show up as themselves. Hence this page. If it reads as obvious, good. If it reads as a lot of rules for something that should be common sense: that's because common sense apparently isn't, or we wouldn't need to write this.
Don't be creepy
This is the whole Code of Conduct, honestly. Everything below is an expansion. If you're reading this and thinking 'but what about…' you're probably the reason this document exists.
"No" is a full sentence
Ends the conversation. No follow-ups, no negotiations, no 'maybe later', no 'come on'. The person gets to decide, and you get to respect the decision.
This is not a dating context
You showed up to an event with tug of war, pistol squats, and strangers on a team. That's a friendship-building context, not a romantic one. If two people click organically over the challenges and exchange numbers after, we won't stop them. But showing up with an agenda of 'meet someone to hit on' is not what this is.
Read the room
If someone steps away, don't follow. If they don't laugh, don't double down. If they're polite but distant, that means back off, not try harder. The ability to read these signals is not optional; it's table stakes.
Touch is earned, not assumed
High fives after winning a challenge? Usually fine. A hand on someone's back? Ask first. Uninvited shoulder rub? Never.
Creepy straight men: this part is for you
Creepy straight men are the single reason 'women-only' and 'invite-only' spaces exist as a genre. We want Le Day Club to be a room where women feel as safe as anyone else, and that means creepy straight men will be spotted and uninvited. If you're wondering whether a specific behavior of yours crosses the line, it does. Ask a trusted female friend before you show up. This club is built by a straight man. If you're reading this and feeling a bit attacked, don't feel bad, bro. There are gentlemen out there. But you know we're writing this for a reason.
Look out for each other
If you see someone cornered, rescue them. Invent a reason to pull them away. If someone seems uncomfortable, check in. The organizers aren't always in the room; the community is.
Tell us if something is off
Pull an organizer aside. DM @ledayclub. Email us through the contact form. We'd rather hear that a situation was 'maybe nothing' than miss one that was something.
Enforcement
This isn't a court. We're not lawyers. We're organizers running an invite-only club at our own discretion. If you're making an event worse for other people, we'll ask you to leave. If it happens again, we stop inviting you. The math: losing one bad actor is better than losing five good people who won't come back because of one bad actor.
Who this applies to
Everyone. Participants, organizers, guests, vendors, partners, the founder. No one gets a pass because they're "important" or "funny" or "brought the good snacks."
The TLDR
Don't be creepy. If you're unsure whether you are, ask yourself: "if a friend I respected watched this moment in slow motion, would they be embarrassed for me?" If yes, stop.
Still good? Come to the first event.